You are the creator of everything

Yes, everything.

If something triggers her, the moment she wants to blame or feel victimized, she asks:

’Where did I abandon myself in the creation of this?’

If she feels misunderstood, she asks:

’where was I not clear?’

If she feels overridden, she asks:

’Where did I not ask cleanly for what I need?’

If she feels like someone is playing games with her, she asks:

‘where did I secretly want to get something from them and not admit it to myself?’

Or:

’what sign from my intuition did I ignore?’

Or:

‘where did I miss the opportunity to name a clear boundary or offer an adjustment to them to be in integrity with myself’

If she feels betrayed, she asks: where did I betray myself?

If she reels rejected, she asks: where did I reject myself?

If she feels unloved, she asks: where did I not love myself?

And then she does the work of teasing the thread all the way out, and creating a new reality.

Here is a classic example:

You create a beautiful dinner for your husband. You pull out all the stops.

You get done eating and he wipes his mouth, throws his napkin down, doesn’t say a word, gets up and goes to the couch, turns the tv on, and leaves you with the dirty dishes.

Do you:

a) call your friend and bitch about what an asshole he is?

Or…

b) recognize, ‘hmm, I think he’s an asshole right now. So where am I actually being the asshole?’

Did you:

• Cook for him from a rescuing energy of wanting to be appreciated, obligation, or wanting to ‘get’ something from him? (Rather than pure generosity)

• Did you ask, ‘hey babe, if I cook tonight, will you clean?’

• Did you name, ‘I’ll cook tonight, but if I do, the energetic exchange of a kiss and thank you and some snuggles is required. Are you in?’

• Did you acknowledge to yourself, ‘I actually hate cooking, why the f don’t we just order carry out?’

• Did you offer a clean and neutral energetic adjustment the last time this happened, to give him the space to meet you in your desire?

• Did you face the truth that this guy has shown you who he is over and over and you are just not willing to be with reality and either accept him as he is, or move on?

Because, whatever it is, you did that.

You created it.

Which means you have the power to create something different.

Which carries a tremendous amount of responsibility for being clear, accountable, and in ownership.

AND cleaning up where you were not.

Here’s a hint: The moment you want an apology, look for where you need to apologize.

‘Hey babe, I was out of alignment when…and then I blamed it on you.

That must have felt…

I am committed to…

Here’s what I am doing to be in alignment so this doesn’t happen again…’

Not everyone is willing to do this, because our ego experiences massive pay off with blame and victimization.

We don’t have to be responsible for our power of creation. Or for creating something different.

We ‘get’ to be victimized. We LIKE it.

Let’s bring it into a more energetic example.

Do you feel victimized by your work? That you are still not doing what you were put here to do? That you are still not clear on your ‘knowing’?

You did that.

You aren’t listening to desire. You are letting your mind shit on your needs over and over, just like the husband in the above scenario.

Are you willing to see life as the mirror of where you are OFF within?

And take the steps to receive the adjustment being offered to you?

Then you are ready for the path.